Most perfectionists do not recognize that they are perfectionists because, ironically, they see themselves as failing or imperfect.
They believe that things can, and should, always be better.
They believe that they will be happy or worthy when they are better.
The perfectionist mind often sounds like:
I'm such a procrastinator. I'll start tomorrow.
Everyone has their act together. What if they realize that I'm an idiot?
I should be a better doctor/partner/parent/friend.
I"m so behind on charting.
I will be happier when I'm thinner.
I don't want to rock the boat.
I'll be happy when I'm an attending.
I will be happy when . . .
If any of these sounds just like you, you are
Despite common perception, perfectionism undermines performance, inhibits growth, and diminishes happiness.
Perfectionism robs us of our fullest job and success by connecting our worth to impossible standards or achievements.
I am a professional ballet dancer turned Primary Care Internist and Certified Life Coach. I nearly left medicine in 2015 due to burnout.
My perfectionism created:
a practice without boundaries
"Every patient deserves your best."
"I'll feel better once these charts are done."
"Everyone else is fine. What's wrong with me?"
At that lonely time, I felt like I’d made a huge mistake in practicing medicine, and that I was the only doctor who was struggling. While on sabbatical, I rebuilt a life that I love, and then I returned to practice medicine.
I work with high achieving professionals who look great on paper but feel overwhelmed or unsatisfied in the life they've worked hard to create. My forward-facing, evidence-based coaching style teaches practical solutions to end perfectionist thinking.
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"I LOVED THE WEEKLY GROUP COACHING AND SHARED, SAFE SPACE TO TALK ABOUT THINGS THAT OTHERWISE WOULD NOT HAVE BEEN PROCESSED."
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Fear of failure
Feel prepared to confidently face real-life challenges. This course offers the skills and support I needed when I was burning out. The thought of letting go of perfectionism was terrifying because I had so much personal success and identity tied up in my external achievements. I was worried that I would fall behind if I let go of the rigid behaviors that got me through medical training and early parenting. I had no idea that I could love and like myself or live without constant worry, shame, and regret.
I promise: there is peace on the other side of perfectionism.